Signs That Rage Has Turned Into An Addiction
By: Newton Hightower
All addictions have symptoms, which allow us to recognize these problems as addictive diseases. The signs of addictive diseases are self-stimulation, compulsion, obsession, denial, withdrawal and craving syndrome, and unpredictable behaviour. Like alcoholism or drug use, anger meets many of the criteria.
Self-Stimulation
For those who are rage-a-holics, expressing anger is self- stimulating. It triggers the compulsion for more anger. For example, lets pretend that we are going to provide treatment for alcoholics. On the way to the treatment centre we stop and buy a case of beer. When we get to the meeting, we tell the alcoholics in therapy that they just need to do a lot of drinking to get it out of their system once and for all.
This is similar to when therapist tell men with rage problems, You just need to express yourself and get it out of your system. It is just as absurd. The more alcoholics drink, the more they want. The more ragers rage, the more they want to rage. |
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Compulsion
Anger addiction or rageaholism is the compulsive pursuit of a mood change by repeatedly engaging in episodes of rage despite adverse consequences. Rage-a-holics continue to rage compulsively without regard to the negative consequences. Compulsion or loss of control is the inability to stop expressing anger once we have begun. The inability to control angry words is a certain sign of rage-a-holism. Loss of control--that is addiction.
Obsession
Rage-a-holics are frequently preoccupied with resentment and fantasies of revenge. Those thoughts sometimes rise powerfully and allow no other thoughts to enter. The force of anger is sometimes irresistible and followed by action. Therefore, the preoccupation with the wrongs of others and revenge continually leads to rage. Progressively, these thoughts crowd out all others until our life becomes chronically revenge-oriented. At that point, anger controls our thoughts.
Denial
Denial keeps anger addicts trapped. It is the mental process by which we conclude that the addiction is not the problem; its them. Ignorance of addiction and the inability to examine ourselves, work together to keep rage-a-holics stuck. Knowing no other way to live, we deny that there is anything wrong with us. This system of denial ensures that the process of rage and righteous indignation will continue. Righteous indignation keeps our focus off of ourselves. This is why ragers seldom are able to say, I am wrong.
Withdrawal and Craving
As with any addiction, anger has a detoxification period. Craving is high during this time. Those who abstain from name-calling, profanity and yelling during this period report more depression than usual for the first three months. Typically, during the first 90 days of abstinence, ragers feel vulnerable and spend a lot of time thinking and hoping for a situation that will allow us to use violence for some heroic purpose. Afterward, however, if we have achieved complete abstinence and maintained it for 90 days, we find we no longer think in profane or disparaging terms. It may even become shocking when we hear others do it.
Unpredictable Behaviour
Another definition of alcoholism is that when an alcoholic drinks, there is no way to predict his or her behaviour. He may drink appropriately from time to time, just as the rage-a-holic may express anger appropriately from time to time. However, when the alcoholic starts to drink alcohol, all bets are off. No one knows what is going to happen. When rage-a-holics start to express anger, no one knows where it is going to go. The most likely think is that they will explode, rant and rave. Rage-a-holics would like to learn how to express our anger appropriately just like alcoholics would like to learn how to drink appropriately. While there are some exceptions, I encourage those with rage problems to abstain from the expression of anger for one year.
This plan is only for that small percent of the population who have rage or violence problems. The approach described here is not for everyone; but for those addicted to rage, it wont work to express your anger.
About The Author
Newton Hightower is the Director of The Centre for Anger Resolution, Inc. in Houston, Texas, and author of the new book "Anger Busting 101: New ABCs for Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them." Visit Newton's website for anger- busting ideas and a free email newsletter filled with guest articles and tips for husbands, wives, and therapists. http://www.angerbusters.com
newton@angerbusters.com
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